Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Wedding Tag

1) Take a recent picture of yourself or take a picture of yourself right NOW!.
2) DON’T change your clothes, DON’T fix your hair…just take a picture.

3) Post that picture with NO editing.
4) Post these instruction with your picture.

ok, so I might have straightened my hair a bit. It was a tangled mess.

1.How old are you?

2. Are you single?

3. In what age do you think you’ll get married?
Probably between 31 to 35. Allah may have other plans though.

4. Do you think you’ll be marrying the person you are with now?
I dont understand the phrase "the person you are with now". Friends? Special someones? If it's the former, maybe. If it's the latter, then I am still unlucky in that department.

5. If not, who do you want to marry?
A woman who shares the same goal and vision in life as me. A person whom I can understand & appreciate, and vice versa.

6. Do you want a garden/beach wedding, or the traditional wedding?
Garden wedding.

7. Your ideal motif?
Colour theme is white and light blue. Dashes of peach would be nice. Scent of lilies and lavender.

8. Where do you plan to go on a honeymoon?
Japan, under the sakura trees. Or wherever my wife preferred.

9. How many guests do you think you’ll invite?
around 500 to 800.

10. Do you want an extravagant wedding or a simple wedding?
Somewhere in the middle ground, not too extravagant as to be wasteful, and not as simple as to be meaningless.

11. Do you want the traditional vows or something you’d make up on your own??
Something of our own creation.

12. How many layers of cake do you want to have?
5 layers.

13. Do you prefer having your reception at a hotel or at a simple place?

Simple place. A hotel usually will render the atmosphere to be soulless.

14. When do you want to get married, evening or morning?
Morning. At the break of dawn. Signifying a great beginning of hope.

15. You’d rather have your reception outdoors or indoors?
Outdoors is the preference.

16. Do you like a grand entrance for your groom/bride?
If she consented to it. Probably try to convince her anyway. Would like to make her feel special.

17. Name the song/tune you’d like played at your wedding?
I Hear You Everywhere by Tanaka Rie, Tercipta Untukku by Ungu, Destiny by Jim Brickman & Jordan Hill, Super Trouper by ABBA, I Dont Wanna Miss A Thing by Aerosmith, When You Say Nothing At All by Ronan Keating, You'll Be In My Heart by Phil Collins, Keabadian Cinta by Anuar Zain, Belaian Jiwa by Innuendo, Kau Ilhamku by Man Bai, Rumahku Syurgaku and Selamat Pengantin Baru by Hijjaz, and Cari Pasangan by Rabbani.

18. Are you a morning person or a night person?
Morning person.

19. Do you want a solemn ceremony or a light one?
Solemn ceremony.

20. What age do you want to get married?
Repeat question..Refer no.3..Ideally will be 26.

21. Describe your ideal husband/wife.

A woman who shares the same goal and vision in life as me. A person whom I can understand & appreciate for what she is (warts and all), and vice versa.

22. Do you prefer fine dining or just the normal spoon & fork/knife?
Never a fan of fine dining anyway. Its too much of a hassle. Normal please.

23. Champagne or red wine?
Hehe. Apple juice?

24. Honeymoon right after the wedding or days after the wedding?
Right after.

25. Money or household item?
No preferences. Appreciate all gifts.

26. Who will pay for the bills?
Going Dutch here.

27. Are you ready for married life?
I am not a good judge as to that. Having said that, I think that I have lots of thing in myself that I have to work upon and change, before embarking on the road to matrimony.

28. Do you think you will still be a virgin until u get married?

29. Will you always be true to your wife/husband?
God-willing, yes.

30. How many kids do you like?
4 or 5 would be nice.

31. A new house for a newly wed or an old one?
No preferences, so long as it's nice, cozy, and manageable.

32. Will you celebrate silver wedding, gold wedding, or diamond wedding?
God-willing, yes.

33. What kind of cuisine would you like for your wedding?

34. Will you record your honeymoon in a cd or dvd?

Yes, I will. For future memories.

Life of the Morally Grey

Assalamualaikum & good evening,

In the fictive world, writers are wont to delineate their integral characters into clear-cut personalities of good & evil. White againsts black.

Rowling gave us the opposing forces of Harry Potter & Voldemort, Tolkien fleshes out the antagonism of Aragorn & Sauron, Lucas spun a story of Luke Skywalker against the Emperor.

But what strikes me is, us real-life characters, are not easily classified into black & white. More often than not, it is likely grey. That is why sometimes I find it hard to relate to these black or white characters. Because they may at times seemed unrealistic in the real setting. The white characters are sometimes holier-than-thou, uptight, preachy. The black characters are hell-bent on destruction, & being evil for evil’s sake.

Perhaps realizing this, the aforementioned writers did include grey characters in their literary works. Rowling dishes out Snape, an ambiguous character, whose true intentions are only revealed towards the end of the magnum opus, in The Deathly Hallow. Snape’s actions was mainly motivated by his undying love to a certain character. Tragic doesn’t even describe Snape’s story. Tolkien put forth the character Boromir, the son of the Steward of Gondor, who was seduced by the power of the One Ring, believing that he can wield it to destroy the evil that is Sauron. Lucas introduced to us the tragic Darth Vader, who was turned into a monstrous being to save his wife.

Maybe, because in these grey ones, I see the most correct way to describe humanity. These grey characters stumble in their lives’ path, make mistakes. But at the same time, they sometimes do acts of good. There is always the question of redemption.

Which is actually similar to the stories of most of us, right?

Because in the end, Snape eventually helped Dumbledore & Harry to bring about the downfall of Voldemort, Boromir died at Amon Hen defending the Hobbits, & Darth Vader threw the Emperor to his death by the core reactor. These men have sinned, because they make choices that they thought was the best. But they turned out right in the end.

So, don’t be hard on yourself if you make mistakes. At the cost of sounding a bit lame, “to err is human, to be perfect is divine”. What is more important, you learn from your mistakes.

Wassalam. Happy Eid Adha to all Muslims.

p/s: Sorry Dayah. I made your tag later. Been a bit busy now.